How are my girly’s today?
Did you think I forgot you? Not on your life! 😉 Been busy with writing and book stuff, but YOU my dears, are more important than ALL of that.
Today, I’ll share a vivid word picture through this verse:
Proverbs 21:9 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
It’s really true girls; A man would rather live in a small corner of an attic than to live with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely, even orderly home.
I want my husband to be happy to come home. I want him to feel that being in my presence is SAFE.
The title, quarrelsome is not something I want as a descriptor connected to me. I looked up some synonyms for a better grasp of the word. Listen to these unattractive labels girls; argumentative, nagging, confrontational, hotheaded, combative, antagonistic, snappy, belligerent, cantankerous, scrappy.
Even though I don’t want to be quarrelsome, to be honest, sometimes I slip into that mode of behavior. It’s not pleasant for your Papa or me.
When I see this enemy of peace through God’s lens, I realize how totally self-centered it is. Here are some attitudes that stick out of a quarrelsome spirit.
When I am quarrelsome, I’m saying, me before you. When I am argumentative I care more about being right, than about being loving. When I am obstinate I take on an attitude of superiority and become my fella’s worst critic.
Girls, an attitude that is constantly quarrelsome has the power to emasculate a man. He may seek peace at all costs thereby taking a back seat instead of the leading role God intends.
Nagging is deflating, frustrating, annoying, unkind, and just plain wrong. “A constant dripping on a day of steady rain And a contentious woman are alike;” Proverbs 27:5
Jesus is our example. He placed himself last. He gave his life for us. As we read the gospels we see that he loved when it was inconvenient and he served when he was beyond tired.
Selfishness comes out of a heart of pride (as with most sins). Self-importance happens when we think much too highly of ourselves and much too lowly of everyone else.
When my mind sets itself on pleasing God, I look for ways to show respect to my husband. When I am set on getting my way I fail at being the woman God created me to be. I also cannot love my husband and be the helpmate he so desperately needs.
So, my girls, let’s read some attributes God wants to cultivate in the hearts of His girls:
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I Peter 3:3-4
“Gracious (friendly, kind, tender) words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body” Proverbs 16:24
The best time to practice graciousness is before you marry. Learn to be gracious with your family and friends.
Remember, without Him, we can do nothing. It is Jesus that does the work in our hearts. Don’t carry the weight of change BUT don’t ever think change is impossible. Surrender to Jesus, ask Him to make you into the girl he created you to be, and have faith to trust that He is at work in you. He will bring the change that makes you pleasing to God and so desirable to the man you have married or will someday marry.
GO to Jesus, HE longs for you to ask Him to work graciousness into your heart.
“I can do ALL things through Christ, who gives me strength.” Phil. 4:13
because I love you,