Choose a Man After God’s Heart

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Hello my girls,

It’s been awhile since I’ve sent you a note.  Life has been busy and my writer’s brain seems set on off. πŸ˜‰

But my heart for you never goes off.  I pray throughout the week that God will drop a message for you in my lap.  When the words formulate in my brain, I begin to write.  Such is the case today. πŸ™‚

As I watch each of you living out your lives, my heart fills with JOY sometimes, and at other times sadness.  How I wish there was a fast forward button so you could see how each little choice, you make today, will affect your future.

As an older woman “Let the older women teach the younger women,” referred to in Titus 2, I come to you in humility.  I come to you as a Nana fully invested in you.  I pray you flourish, that your life shines for Jesus in this dark world.

Today’s topic, A man after God’s own heart, is heavy on my heart.  I want you to marry a godly man.  Not a good man, or a man who treats you good (while you are dating) but a man whose heart is on fire for God.


Do you know why I want this for you?  Because I know that a man who loves God will ALWAYS love you.  He will love you with the Love God puts in His heart. He will lead you because he knows his role is to be your rock. Marriage is hard, make no mistake about it. A man who loves God will weather each storm and love you through it.

Years ago, God laid it on my heart to break up with my high school boyfriend because he was not a spiritual leader. Oh, he was tall, dark, handsome, he spoiled me and was so good to me.  But God kept whispering in my heart.  He does not love God like you do.  This is not my choice.

Breaking up with my boy was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I agonized, argued, pleaded with God to change His mind.  But He was telling me, “Choose me, trust me, allow me to lead you to a man such as you never dreamed possible. You all know him as  Papa.  His love for God and his unshakeable convictions attracted me to him … well, that and his extremely good looks. LOL

Jesus gave His life for you, there is NO greater sacrifice. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”  This is what He asks of you.

Taking it one step further; don’t be fooled.  You should know that a man’s heart is revealed through his choices, his conduct, his actions. Does he give lip service to being a Christian? OR is his life transformed by the power of God.  Has he been redeemed and is he growing in his Faith?

As I ask you these questions, let me urge you to turn that light on your own heart.  A godly man seeks a godly girl.  It’s that simple.

God’s ways are not our ways, NO, they are better than anything we could ever imagine or hope for.  “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.” Isa. 55:8

“Seek the LORD while he may be found; call on him while he is near.” Isa. 55:6

I love you, girls, I will always love you.  I cannot choose for you.  God has given each of us a free will, otherwise, we would be puppets.  I pray you choose God;  and choose a man after His heart.

because I love you,


11 thoughts on “Choose a Man After God’s Heart

  1. This is good way to choose a future partner, but I still think you have to be very careful who you choose. You can still be fooled by men who say they love God. I am not going to give details of the personal examples I know of here, because this is not the place to do so. I’ll just say I know several women who thought they had found the perfect man of God and were very deeply hurt when they found they had been deceived.

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  2. marie, I hear you and yes, sometimes women get tricked. My best advice is not to hurry into a marriage, but take your time to really know the man. It takes time for people to let their guard down, everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning of a relationship. I dated my husband 3 years. Secondly, I really encourage friendship first, keeping the physical in check. Once the physical comes into a relationship, emotions cloud your perceptions. Third, study how he treats his Mother; Is he respectful? Is he kind? Is he helpful? Seeing how he treats his Mother reveals his attitudes toward women in general. He can go too far the other way too, is he too connected to his Mom (Mother-Son bond) which is not a good thing. Fourth, Cover everything in prayer and ask God to reveal inconsistencies, then be willing to make the hard decision to walk away should God ask you to. Thanks for exposing the snare of being misled by a man.

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    1. Great advice Susan! I agree that the wisest thing to do is to cover everything in prayer. God never lets us down! Thank you for taking on board my thoughts, as I was a little apprehensive about bringing this to the table. It seemed as if I was being a bit of pessimist.

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  3. Yes! Yes! Yes! This is TRUTH! I often pray that same prayer for my children… that they will find Godly spouses, and for the same reason. I know if heir spouses truly love the Lord, then they will love and honor their spouse and they will be able to weather all the storms together. Beautiful post!

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    1. Your enthusiasm put a big smile on my face… it actually matches my own for my precious grandgirls. I always say it’s the 2nd most important decision they will EVER make. First is to follow Jesus and give Him their lives. Thanks for the encouraging comments. πŸ™‚

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