Don’t Marry a Fixer-Upper

 

A series of Christian based letters to my Grandgirls, entitled, Nana’s Love Notes

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Hi Girlies,

Pastor Dave’s message on Sunday was right on target!  He said, “Never choose a fixer-upper.” Do you know why? There is no such thing as fixing a man after you marry him, it just never happens.  What you see is what you get.

The next words I will write refer to a point-in-time when you choose to be in a committed relationship.  It’s an opportunity to study your potential life partner.

Is he more interested in hanging with the guys than hanging with you?  He’s not changing.

Is he a silent knight?  One that doesn’t talk to you about what’s going on in his head? He’s not changing.

Does he include you in his dreams for the future?  Does he share his walk with the Lord or initiate devotions with you?  Does he love kids like you do?

My sweet girls, Seek God with all of your heart, He wants you to have a partnership that reflects the Love of God.  Look for a young man who is strong in the Lord. Choose a guy you respect, and one who’s admired by others for his character.  Choose a guy who is a leader, someone you would be eager to follow.

As you get to know him, take note .. is he a ‘one woman man?’  Choose a guy who would rather be with you than anyone else in the world.

A young man who loves the Lord will take responsibility for you, your spiritual growth, emotional health, and physical protection.

The second most important decision you will EVER make in life will be the man you choose to marry.

As you know, I’ve been a Pastor’s wife most of my life.  I’ve heard heartbreaking stories from many unhappily married women. These women married guys they thought were handsome, fun, or smart.  They ignored warning signs thinking, I’ll fix him.

The most important quality to look for in a young man is His love for God.  Does he love God with all of his heart soul and mind?  There’s a whole lot of sadness that comes when it hits you, “I married a guy who does not love God like I do.”

Girls, pray and ask Jesus to open your eyes to see HIS choice.  Never, ever, ever settle!

Also

Know, that if you want to find a godly guy – you must be a godly girl.  Only a girl with depth, wisdom, and love for God will draw and attract a godly guy.  Spend time with Jesus, Seek to know Him through His word.  Seek Wisdom, like searching for gold, and God will give it to you. Plug into opportunities to grow with other believers.

You are not prepared for a union until you are singularly whole.

Two people who are united in Christ are POWERFUL, fulfilled and stable!  Not perfect, mind you, but God grows them to be more like Him. God is the glue that keeps them together.

You have NO idea how much you are loved.  Your Abba Father longs to pour His blessings into your lives!  His ways are not our ways … He see’s what we do not. Go to Him my girls and find in Him everything you will ever need.  xoxo

because I love you,

Nana

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Me and My Big Mouth

A series of Christian based letters to my Grandgirls, entitled, Nana’s Love Notes

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Hi Girls,

As you know, I asked Jesus into my life when I was fifteen years old. I was the first person in my family to become a Christian. My world flipped and just like that I went from despair to hope, from purposeless to passion, from feeling unloved to holding a love cup overflowing with God’s love for me.

Although I was growing in my walk with Jesus, I still had sin issues.  As a new Christian, it was very hard for me to control my BIG mouth!  My Dad ticked me off.  He was mean and unfair.

Often, when I spent time in God’s word, He convicted me.

In my heart, I’d hear Him say, “Susie, you have me, Jesus living inside of you.  You are not allowing me to shine.”  The only Jesus my family saw was in me.

Oh, I struggled because, in my pride, I felt justified for my defiance and conducting a hollering match with my Dad.

I remember one night dragging myself out of my room to apologize to my Dad for yelling at him.  It was HARD!!!

I did not want to do it – my PRIDE and big mouth were sin – this I knew.  I had a choice. I could ignore God and get a hard heart, or obey Him and experience freedom from sin. Bottom line, I didn’t want sin to remain in my heart. I wanted to obey Jesus.

So, I got to the living room, spotted my Dad sitting in his favorite chair and sheepishly spoke, “I’m sorry Dad for not respecting you.”

My Dad’s face was first confused; then it lit up with a BIG smile.  We both laughed, no longer mad at each other.

It was a battle in my heart I fought for years, in fact, sometimes I still fight that battle.  But, through the years, God has worked in me. As I obey Him, He works calmness and patience into my heart.

He is so faithful!

Here are some verses for my sweethearts today:

Phil. 1:6  “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”

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Romans 5:3-4  “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.”

 

Because I love you,

Nana 

Hidden Treasures

A series of Christian based letters to my Grandgirls, entitled, Nana’s Love Notes

The inspiration for my first note comes from Proverbs 2.

“IF you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding IF you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures … then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.  For the Lord GIVES wisdom, he stores up sound wisdom for the upright he is a shield to those who walk in integrity.”

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Good morning girlies,

As I was reading my Bible this morning, I thought of you.  My prayer for you is the same prayer I prayed for my kids, (your parents). I pray that you will grow in your understanding of Father God and that you find your identity in Him.

When you find your identity in Christ, you are free to be ALL God created you to be.  You are a child of the King, His princess.

I also pray that our family’s next generation (YOU) will seek God and that God will use the light that shines within you to reflect His glory and His love to a very dark world.

I will be emailing you love notes to encourage you in your walk with Jesus. As I share the Love of God and the wisdom He imparts, I hope it encourages you. I also hope it creates a hunger for His word which will lead you to dig for truth as for hidden treasures.

When I was a brand new Christian (15 years old) I read the verses below.  My heart welled up with the deepest longing and I begged God for wisdom:

“IF you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding IF you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures … then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.  For the Lord GIVES wisdom, he stores up sound wisdom for the upright he is a shield to those who walk in integrity.” Prov. 2:1-7

“Ask and it will be given you seek and you will find knock and the door will be open to you.” Luke 11:9  Jesus

God loves you, my girls, He is waiting for you to dig for the gold nuggets found in His word. Call out to Him, He is waiting and He longs to give you His wisdom.

Because I love you,

Nana 

Nana’s Lovenotes

I am Nana to eleven extraordinary grandkids. The oldest eight are granddaughters who span the years of preteen to the early twenties.  Each of these grandgirls have embraced the faith of their family. They have accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior.  I am deeply thankful because it is the most important decision they will ever make.

As I was contemplating my grandgirls plight in today’s world, I was struck by how much our world has changed.

It’s not easy being a Jesus Follower. Peer pressure and assaults on their Faith occur on a daily basis.  Their peers are partiers, disrespectful, attention seekers, rebellious and set against authority. My Granddaughters are growing up in an age of entitlement. This generation holds an unrealistic expectation that life is to be handed to them on a silver platter.

As their Nana, I want to point them to Jesus.  I believe, as the scriptures say, that the older women are to teach the younger women. I take that charge seriously, especially when it comes to family.  I have always had an active role in my grandchildren’s lives.  I study them, laugh with them, pray for them and love them with all of my heart.

I choose to be a constant in their lives.  One of the ways I do this is by sending love notes to each of my older Grands via email.  The writings of my heart are delivered to their personal email box filled with encouragement, love, and lessons. As I write my girls I share inspirational stories and  personal experiences. I pray over the lovenotes, that God will use them to impart wisdom and conviction.

I am so grateful the girls have received my love notes with graciousness and appreciation. My heart sings when I hear, “Nana, I loved your email” or “When will we get another note?” or “I went to my email today hoping to hear from you.” Sometimes a simple “thank you and I love you,” is confirmation that I’m on the right track.

In the coming days, with full permission from my grandgirls, I will be sharing some of the love notes I have sent to them.  I pray God will use my writings to inspire you to connect and pour into the younger generation.

I always end each love note with

Because I love you,

Nana